One of my favorite questions to ask is, “What do you want more than anything.” A client recently shared his greatest desire was Security. As we unpacked this, I asked how having Security would look and feel. He described a world where nothing bad could happen to him or his…

“If you are trying to make the best of a bad situation, you are choosing a suboptimal view of the situation.” ~Michael Neill — As a coach, people come to me for help with challenges and problems. They show up with what they believe is a complete and accurate view…

Contrary to popular opinion, our experience of life is never objective. Instead, we experience ‘reality’ based on our thinking at this moment. Different thinking creates different experiences. Two individuals can share the same circumstances but have the opposite experience of those circumstances. Similarly, the same person can have different a experiences of the same situation at different times.

Recently, I ran a poll that confirmed something I long suspected. More people value Freedom (57%) over Peace (26%), connection (11%), or even Success (6%). This mirrors my experience working with clients who most often say ‘Freedom’ when I ask about their greatest desire. When pressed to describe what Freedom…

We are all made of exactly the same stuff. The same energy. The same life force. We are all assembled by the same creator (God, The Universe, Consciousness, etc.) Yet we ‘live’ inside an impenetrable illusion… …and inside this manifestation, we are convinced we exist as an individual entity, separate…

I work with highly successful clients to unpack the ‘Why’ behind their relentless drive and persistent anxiety. At the end of the rainbow, we often uncover the desire for Freedom. One client shared it this way: “I want to build a financial wall around my family so tall nothing can…

I was recently reminded of how magical religion can be. For a few hours, every person in the church knows they are loved completely. In that moment, each of us loves ourselves completely. And when we love ourselves completely, we create our life as someone who loves themselves completely. We…

For the last 40 days, I have abstained from alcohol, meditated, and followed an intermittent fasting regime. What happened? I woke up one morning with the thought: “What about taking a break from alcohol?” A few hours later the thought appeared: “I’ll start meditating and see how that goes.” Two…

Raj Raghunathan is the author of a beautiful book titled “If You’re So Smart, Why Aren’t You Happy?” Early in the book, he shares his favorite question to ask at parties. Raj calls it The Genie Question because he tells a fellow party-goer to imagine meeting a genie with the…